naw-sexual:

spoonmeb:

meeresbande:

pumpkinskull:

iamthedukeofurl:

marysburgerbackpack:

secretsofaginger:

basiliskhallward:

fun tip for cis people: instead of saying “back when she was a he” or “back before [birthname] became [preferred name]”, try not being a pile of shit by saying something like “before she came out” or “before she began her transition”!

Pls friends and thanks.

“before she came out” is so easy and preserves so much dignity, PLEASE

I’ve been wondering the best way to say this. Thank you. 

also if their transition is irrelevant to the story, don’t bring it up! just say “when X was a kid/ younger/ in college/ etc” and carry on using their current name and pronouns.

That last point is very important! DO NOT OUT ANYONE! Do not bring up their trans status or transition unnecessarily! And you trying to look more interesting/cool/whatever by having a trans friend does not count as “neccessary”!!

^^^ And fellow cis people just because a trans person is comfortable talking about any aspect of their lives or transition to us doesn’t clear us to repeat that information to other people. That is their personal information to share when and how they choose, not ours.

Thank you for giving me the proper language! Like I honestly did not know how to say this (and so most of the time I just wouldn’t say anything)